So, you love a bit of anal pleasure? Fabulous! Those who embrace this kind of play are welcoming a whole new world of delicious sensations to their sexual experience.
If anal isn’t for you though, that’s fine! Whatever floats your boat! But if you are either active or intrigued when it comes to this kind of fun, there are a few things that you may or may not know…
So, today we’re talking about lube! Soft, silky, wet anal lube. You know, the stuff that makes any sexual activity even more enjoyable? And not just for women, as many might believe. Lube is a sensual sexual wellness product that’s just as important for men too.
Like, when it comes to women, she either needs to produce lubrication naturally, or use lube. This is because sex without it can be pretty uncomfortable and even painful. Then, when it comes anal pleasure (for both men and women), the anus hardly produces any natural lubrication at all.
What does that mean? There’s no question about… lube is absolutely essential for good health and wellbeing. Without lube, anal sex can be excruciating, and life’s just too short to deal with that kind of pain and discomfort.
What Anal Lube Should You Being Using?
The lube you decide to use depends on your preference, but it’s generally thicker kinds of lube that are better for anal sex.
This is because the tissue in and surrounding the rectum is more sensitive than vaginal tissue, and using a thick lube will help reduce friction and abrasion.
At the same time, bear in mind that some lubes may not be safe to use with latex, such as oil-based lube. Oil lube tends to weaken latex, which is something surely no latex user wants to experience. Additionally, petroleum-based lube, like Vaseline or baby oil, actually destroys latex, so steer clear of this kind of lubricant for safety reasons.
Using thicker lube should also be in conjunction with slow and mindful anal play. The anal sphincter needs to be relaxed in order to receive and enjoy the experience.
We suggest engaging in different kinds of oral sex and foreplay beforehand to enhance arousal, and to gently massage or tease the area before any kind of penetration.
And then, the million-dollar question: what lube should you be using for anal play? We suggestwater-based lube, as it’s silky and slick. Water-based lube is safe to use with latex, and is body-safe too, making it the real winner at the end of the day.
It’s often more comfortable to place the lube in your hand and glide it between your fingers to warm it up before you place it on your lover.
Then, when it’s time for your anal adventure, remember to take it slow and allow the receiver to verbalise how they’re feeling in order to maximize pleasure and comfort. Respect and consent are always a must!
Using a condom is also advised for new partners or for those engaging in fun when both partners have not been tested. This will lower the chance of spreading STIs and HIV. And in the case of going from oral sex to anal play, like rimming, you could consider using a dental dam as a barrier between the mouth and the anus.
In this case, be mindful of the condom, as lubrication does increase the risk of it slipping off. Holding the condom at the base of the penis when intercourse is over is a good idea to help prevent this.
Condom Tip: If you’re not a fan of condoms and believe that it dulls sensitivity, you can place a dollop of lube onto the head of the penis before you put on the condom. This will enhance sensitivity and pleasure.
And now you’re ready to give anal play a go, or perhaps make your session even more sexy, pleasurable, and safe! Have fun!
Helena is a sex-positive freelance copywriter in her early 30’s from Cape Town, South Africa. She’s travelled and lived in various countries in Asia and Europe for almost a decade, and continues to live her dream — traveling the world independently as a copywriter. Having written for various companies and magazines within the industry, she has extensive knowledge in the field of sexual health, the escort industry, and sex toy marketing.