There may be a good reason grandma and grandpa haven’t returned your phone call.
An analysis of 2,000 older people’s sex habits revealed that 77% have seen significant changes in their sex lives since they were younger. The remaining 77% saw slight improvements (77%), and 45%. saying they’ve had the best sex of their lives as they’ve aged. Can we finally accept aging?
The results showed that most respondents said they have less sex now than in their youth, citing their 30s as the time of their life they were the most sexually active — but one in eight Americans 50 and older still have sex at least 5 times a week.
OnePoll conducted for the benefit of LELOThe survey revealed that 35% of respondents are more intimate than ever and that the same percentage feel their sex drive has increased since they were younger.
More than a third of people over 50 would like to be more intimate, but don’t have the time (38%) — likely because they’re always working (42%), live with others (39%) or have family come over often (36%).
Three in four respondents whose kids still live with them say they usually wait until their child falls asleep or isn’t around to have sex with their partner (74%).
Nearly half of parents whose children are grown said that their sex lives have improved (48%).
Although some Americans 50 and older don’t have as much time to be intimate as they’d like, more than half said they take advantage of their free time by being intimate with their partner (56%).
Respondents favored the bedrooms (69%), and the living room (48%), but 48% of older people said that they had sex in the laundry room and on the staircase.
Two thirds of respondents are happy to experiment in the bedroom. Half of those surveyed said they feel more comfortable trying out new sex positions in their bedroom than ever (53%).
“Even though we don’t see many older adults being sexually romantic in the media, it doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy it too. The myth around it is related to people’s discomfort with aging. We believe that pleasure should be celebrated by everyone – regardless of age. Intimacy comes in different forms as we age and it can be just as satisfying,” says LELO’s CMO Luka Matutinović.
Doggy-style (42%), Missionary (38%), or Spooning (29%) are the top sex positions that older Americans have tried in the past year.
A third of respondents also said they were more comfortable with multiple partners than ever, while others prefer to focus on their relationships.
One respondent said “a night out enjoying each other’s company” helps their intimacy spark alive while others say it’s important to remind one another that they love each other.
Others respondents keep the spark alive by trying new things or being spontaneous in the bedroom.
Seniors still care about sex. One in eight seniors said that they would be uncomfortable discussing changes in their sexual drive with their partner.
A mere 42% of those with low sex drives feel it would ruin their relationship.
But it doesn’t always have to be about sex. Thirty-four percent said they’ve had too much sex in their lives, and 57% feel they’ve accomplished everything they wanted to do sexually in life.
Americans over 50 enjoy spending time with their partner in non-sexual ways, such as watching movies (53%), going on walks (44%), or having intimate dinners (46%)
“The changes that come with aging make women and men communicate more, get more creative, have more time to explore, which leads to getting the right type of satisfaction. Our buyers are often seniors; they know what they want and understand pleasurable things are waiting for them to explore,” adds Matutinović.
Older Americans have had sex in their homes.
- Bedroom (69%)
- Living room (48%)
- Bathroom (38%)
- Kitchen (28%)
- Dining room (24%)
Older Americans’ favorite sex positions from the last year
- Doggy-style (42%)
- Missionary (38%)
- Spooning (29%).
- Reverse cowgirl (28%).
- Cowgirl (27%)
Donna is a Volonté contributor and freelancer who lives in San Francisco with her understanding husband and not-so-understanding teenage sons. Her work was published in The Journal of Sexology, and she is currently working on a book about love languages.