If you’ve been looking for ways to spice up your sex life and bring in some fresh air into your bedroom, you might want to think about taking it outside your bedroom.
To be more specific–you should think about trying hotel sex.
Many people consider hotel sex to be so much hotter and better than regular sex at home, even though technically there is not much difference except the location.
So, Why Is Hotel Sex So Much Better?
Only the thought of being in a hotel makes us horny. We want to tear each other’s clothes and have quick dirty hotel sex that leaves you panting and sweaty.
You might think that the porn you watch might be the reason why you feel this way, but there is actual science behind why hotel sex is steamier.
Reason #1: You’re More Relaxed When the Responsibilities of Home Are Far Away
Stress is a huge mood killer when it comes to sex. When you’re thinking about your responsibilities, preparing for the next day, and what you need to do around the house, sex is the last thing on your mind.
But when people are staying in the hotels, during vacations, or simply weekend getaways, they’re relaxed. They’re not thinking about work, home responsibilities, or having to wake up and rush in the morning.
“There’s something about having no responsibilities and that sense of being taken care of that allows us to relax and have a sense of internal freedom, which is essential for sexual performance,” says Alexandra Katehakis, clinical director for the Center for Healthy Sex.
Reason #2: The Novelty of a New Place Makes You Excited
Hotel sex is a novelty, it’s something that you don’t get to do every day. It’s also a new location, and it actually makes people hornier and more excited about sex and trying out new things.
New research suggests that when people go out and seek new adventures and exploration outside their daily routines, it also makes their sex life more exciting.
“Vacations can provide opportunities for couples to self-expand ― engage in novel, exciting activities… This can promote sexual desire, sexual activity, and sexual and relationship satisfaction,” says Amy Muise, a professor in the Department of Psychology at York University in Canada.
When you’re in a new location, on a short getaway, far away from home, you’re more excited about having sex with your partner, trying new sex toys and kinks you haven’t explored before, and it all happens while you’re staying at the hotel.
Reason #3: You Get the Privacy
Not everyone lives on their own terms, and hotel sex can be the only way to get some privacy from family, kids, friends.
Women tend to be more reserved about having sex at home, not wanting to wake up the kids with loud noises.
Some couples might live in a generational home with their parents and other relatives, which doesn’t allow for much privacy either. That’s why love hotels are very popular in Japan, where it’s common for a couple to live with extended family.
Hotel sex provides the relief of not worrying about being loud, someone else hearing you, and it allows you to fully relax and enjoy your partner and yourself.
Reason #4: You Don’t Have to Take Care of Anything Else, Just Your Orgasm
No clean-up, no changing the sheets after, no need to tidy the bedside table, and make dinner for the family. You can fully immerse yourself in the present and hedonistic activities.
Hotel sex relieves you from the responsibilities of home maintenance, and it’s actually a bigger turn-on for most people than you might think.
It’s just you, your partner, mindblowing orgasms, and overpriced room service.
Tips for Mind-blowing Hotel Sex
Hotel sex is pretty straightforward, as you can imagine.
But here are a few ideas to help you spice things up even a bit more if you want to try hotel sex but not sure of how to go about it.
Tip #1: Bring All the Basics
Obviously, you’ll want to pack your sexiest lingerie, your favorite sex toys, condoms, and lots of lube. Throw in some handcuffs and even a Sybian if you’ve got big enough luggage.
But apart from all the sexy things you will want to use during your getaway, don’t forget the basic essentials like toothpaste, shower gel, and an extra pair of comfy clothes when you just don’t feel like wearing sexy lace anymore.
You never know what you’ll need and whether there will be stuff in the hotel room. And the last thing you’ll want to do during your sexy getaway is run to the local Target because you forgot your hand cream.
Also–bring some bottled water with you, just in case you get thirsty, and the hotel doesn’t offer complimentary water. And trust me–you will get thirsty.
Tip #2: Arrive Separately
If you want to really take it up a notch and make it a night to remember, make a little effort and agree with your partner to arrive separately at the hotel.
It will add to that novelty sensation, and it will make it so much more exciting. You have the opportunity to surprise your partner by getting dressed up, wearing the sexy and seductive outfit you’ve been holding off for a special occasion.
A simple detail as arriving separately, as if you’re meeting for the first time again, can make a huge difference.
Tip #3: Start the Evening Outside Your Bedroom
Foreplay starts before you get into the bedroom–that’s the secret of mind-blowing hotel sex.
Go to the hotel bar, have some drinks. Hotel bars are usually designed to be dark and moody, with sexy lounge music playing in the background and sexy cocktails being served.
Sit close to each other, flirt, and really let yourself forget that the world exists. Maybe even pretend to play a game of sexy strangers?
Quick tip–don’t go too crazy on drinks, and don’t get drunk before you even get to the room.
Light buzz might be great for enhancing your sex drive for a hot hotel sex session, but too much booze can very quickly ruin sex because you’ll be just too wasted to fully experience the pleasure.
Tip #4: Try Everything Your Hotel Room Has to Offer
Once you’re in your hotel room, it’s time to go wild.
Have sex in the shower, bath, on the table, bed, armchair, chair, by the window.
Every corner of your hotel room is a new possibility for a mind-blowing orgasm. Don’t be shy and enjoy yourself.
You have the privacy to really go all out and unpack your sex toys without worrying that someone might come in at the wrong time. Try light BDSM, spanking, and other kinks you wanted to explore but didn’t have the capacity back at home.
Hotel sex is meant to be dirty and wild, so don’t hold back here.
Tip #5: Enjoy Yourself, but Don’t Be Rude
A lot of people enjoy the thought of hotel sex because they want to indulge in their exhibitionist side a bit. Screaming loud so the neighbors could hear or having sex in front of the window is hot.
There is nothing wrong with letting yourself go wild a bit, but do be mindful of other guests as well.
If the hotel staff gets complaints about you, they’ll have to do something about it, and you don’t want your hotel stay ending poorly.
Also, condoms go in the trash once you’re done, and don’t cum on the furniture or the ceiling. Or at least try not to do it too much–sometimes you just can’t control yourself, and that’s alright.
Letting loose and going wild is the point of hotel sex, after all. But then, don’t forget to tip the staff, because they definitely deserve it!
For Some of You More Daring – Try Sex Hotels
Now, if you and your partner want to take the concept of hotel sex even further, then think about trying out one of the sex hotels.
If you’re looking for an adventure, this one is going to be perfect for you.
What Are Sex Hotels?
Sex hotels are an important part of the tourism industry in various places of the world, and they provide a safe and comfortable environment for people to enjoy sex and intimacy with their partners.
These hotels are only for sex and sexual activities and most often offer hourly, daily, and nightly rates.
Sex hotels usually have private entrances, and most of them don’t even have staff for you to interact with–there will be machines that will allow you to book a room for your adventure.
It’s true that sex hotels are often used by prostitutes, escorts, and people using their services, but it’s also very common amongst couples who are looking to spice up their sex life or experience different things like group sex.
These hotels also most often have a certain atmosphere to them, like crushed velvet padded walls and dark red rooms, so if you’re looking for an ambiance, you’ll definitely find it there.
Best Sex Hotels
#1: Sahara Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
This hotel combines luxury with sex, and if that’s what you’re looking for, you won’t be disappointed.
They have a luxurious and really out there interior, all the usual amenities of a hotel which you can enjoy when you’re not having sex, and they offer the hotel intimacy kit, which includes fancy condoms, lubes, and a vibrator.
Sahara Las Vegas also has mirrored ceilings and peek-a-boo showers, so if that’s your thing–do check this sex hotel out.
#2: The Secret Dungeon, High Wycombe, UK
If you ever wanted to try and experience a full-on Fifty Shades of Grey-inspired weekend away, then The Secret Dungeon is going to be the sex hotel for you.
It’s a boutique hotel designed for BDSM play lovers, offering a very sophisticated and sexy dungeon ambiance. It offers bookings by the hour or overnight, so you can stay as little or as long as you’d like.
Once you’re inside the sex hotel, you’ll have access to plenty of various activities and prompts like padded walls, a throne chair, a leather swing, and various sex machines.
The Secret Dungeon will definitely awaken an adventure seeker inside you.
#3: Desire Riviera Maya Resort, Puerto Morelos, Mexico
Nothing screams luxury sex hotel than Desire Riviera Maya Resort. It’s an exclusive couples-only desire resort that offers good weather and a sexy atmosphere.
This all-inclusive resort will make you forget all the stress about work and home life. This hotel allows sex in public spaces, and nudity is welcome, so if you’re conservative about that, it might not be the best choice of a sex hotel for you.
But if you’re willing to experience new things, then being in an atmosphere like this, where everyone is very much focused on pleasure, will be a hard-to-forget-experience.
Leaving your bedroom behind can open a lot of new opportunities for pleasure and different kinds of sexual experiences.
If you ever had a naughty fantasy over having hot and steamy hotel sex, don’t hesitate and book your next getaway now.
Life is too short for not making your sexual fantasies a reality.
Karolina Wilde is a sexual wellness writer. Her work has been published on The Ascent, P.S. I Love You, and Sexography reaching over 25,000+ readers. In her free time, you can find her podcasting, reading, or creating TikTok videos.